Two seems to do for lots of people. This is an ideal amount of children for many. I get the idea, you want them to have a sibling, a companion - and too many children and they outnumber you!
As a person who has one child, I do think I would like to have another child, but what amazes me is how people assume that I WILL have another or how I NEED to have another. As if going through childbirth once wasn't the real challenge, the real challenge is to do it twice or multiple times
Some friends of mine have one child and are very happy but I am amazed at a party when the topic comes up, it is phrased like "well I JUST have the one". And even if they say yes I have a child, my son or daughter, the next question can often be "just the one?". Maybe the person posing the question wants to make sure they are getting it right, or maybe they are just making conversation but if they had more than one don't you think they would have said it point blank.
I think having one child is an awesome thing, there are many people (including me) who have one child and are very proud of that. I am just a little annoyed at societies need to define a family as more than one child, as if you aren't woman enough unless you give birth more than once. Sure this is my beef, but it's my blog so suck it up! When I got married I got the question "when are you guys having kids?" over and over. Now that I have a wonderful toddler I get the question " when are you going to have another". Strange how I believe it stops after that. Not to often you here people say "so, are you guys going to try for number 7, I think its about time".
When I was a teenager I worked at an Arby's fast food restaurant and the owner was....let's call him economically savvy, he had this saying posted on top of all the napkins "why take two when one will do". Can't help but think of it right now.
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